Right this is a pre warning I got pissed off today and so this is my way of venting and so yes this is a rant!
Ok so here is what happened to me today, i had the day off of college today and so i decided to go into my local town and wonder round the shops as the sun was out and it was much better for me that being inside all day. Anyway i had a really great day wondering round with my sister getting things done that needed to be and all that stuff, then we headed home. You may need some context here. Basically my mother had been away for the night and had returned while me and my sister were out. So we got home, we were both really tired having been on our feet all day and having walked home in the hot sun, so we sat down and went through our stuff, that's when my mum noticed what i was wearing. Her mood immediately changed she was all of a sudden filled with anger and she turned to me and said "is that a man's shirt you are wearing?" to which i replied "yes, why?" she then screamed at me to take it off and that it was going to go to the charity shop, and that she hoped i didn't go out in public dressed like that.
Now this really pissed me off ok, so what if i feel comfortable wearing a guys shirt i will wear whatever the fuck i want to wear i am 18 years old and can make my own decisions about how i want to look. After this reaction by my own mother i can't help but question how my own family judges not only me but other people they see. I started thinking about this and i remember another situation where to quote my mother she said to me "you look like a dyke", now i personally hate this word and its connotations but it really made me think how i could even be related to my own mother, we have such different opinions and outlooks on life to me its strange.
I mean i'm perfectly comfortable with who i am, but my family is not. I do not judge people based on stereotypes, I judge people on there personality, everyone is a human being whether they are young, old, gay, straight, black, white no matter what!
I encounter a similar reaction from my sister. Note: i am quite close to my sister and so i talk to her about a lot of stuff. So i recently decided to tell my sister that i was bisexual, and the first thing she said to me was "no your not your just confused" now i personally thought that out of all my family my sister being of a similar age to me would understand this and be more accepting of it, but she wasn't, she just kept denying it. This really discouraged me and it has taken me about 6 years to accept who i really was and i finally felt ready to tell my family and yet i was rejected almost straight away. Just in case your wondering i haven't told any other member of my family since.
Anyway that's the end of my little rant I'd be interested to see what you guys think of the situation, should these kind of attitudes still really exist in 2014?
'Be the person you want to be, not the person you think you have to be' - Hannah Hart
